My thoughts about escort, intimacy and emotional needs

An escort date is a small microcosm, a relationship on the fly. Instead of courting each other for weeks or months, we spend a few hours in each other's arms. Ideally, this creates the same emotional intensity and intimacy as a "traditional" encounter. How do you create a sense of closeness and companionship within a short period of time, beyond the physical aspect? This is one of the most exciting challenges for me as an escort.  

Therefore, I have written down for you how I approach the topic of "intimacy" on an escort date. Maybe this will help you to adjust to our meeting and to develop a better feeling for what magical surprises can await you. I can promise you: It's worth it. 

Sensuality: When distance becomes closeness

It always happens that my companion sits far away at the other end of the couch when we meet in the hotel room and exchange the first words. Some men even sit down on the armchair opposite the couch. Maybe this happens out of politeness, maybe out of insecurity. Maybe it's also a certain distance that we're brought up with. I don't want that to stop at all! It is charming and I like it very much to seek closeness from me. 

As an escort, it is my job to create a space in which we both feel comfortable and can open up. Our little escape from everyday life is much more than the quick physical satisfaction. The trappings should be at least as beautiful (and satisfying) as the act itself. 

Perhaps this break from everyday life is one reason why I like wellness dates over a weekend so much. It reinforces the effect that we are in our own little world. Quite often it happens that despite plans we hardly leave the room in the end - simply because we both feel no need for it. 

I was able to visit a spa hotel on the outskirts of a major European city alongside a wonderful man. We couldn't get into the room right away, but were already allowed into the spa area. Our start to the date was to explore the huge facility (spoiler: we never managed to discover everything). We were in the indoor pool, sauna, ice bath (not me!), infrared sauna, whirlpool... And all the while we talked, laughed and enjoyed our company - feeling each other without touching. 

The sun had already disappeared behind the horizon when we finally got closer in the outdoor pool. At this point, I already knew his love for cold baths, his thoughts about artificial intelligence and how great his dimples looked when he laughed. When his hand then lovingly caressed my butt underwater, I couldn't pull him into our prepared room fast enough. 

Warmed up from the sauna sessions and with wet hair, we literally tumbled into bed, our bathrobes carelessly tossed aside. It felt so perfect, so right, to feel his naked skin. The interlude at the spa was the perfect prelude to our personal get-to-know-you round (without the weird games from coaching rounds). It was as if the world outside the door didn't even exist. 

When we left the hotel together at the end of the date, I just said "Back to reality!" - because that's exactly what it feels like. In retrospect, it's really exciting how two complete strangers spend two days together and then feel like they've escaped everyday life together. This togetherness does not fall from the sky. There are many small ingredients that create our intimacy on the escort date. And maybe in some corners I have my trained hands in the game....

How does the intimacy arise during the escort date?

Of course, I can only write about how I approach the matter. With this, I certainly do not speak for every escort lady. But I believe that honest interest in the other person is an important part of this blossoming emotional connection. 

That starts with the very first e-mail: I take great interest in my counterpart and try to read between the lines. It is not only about what the gentleman writes - but also what he does not write. Since I am an independent escort, we both have the great advantage that we can already get to know each other a bit by e-mail and "get to know each other". With an agency, where you communicate with an employee in the back office, this is more difficult. 

During a date I am my best version and try to communicate things that are important to me in a charming way. I'm not the type for head-on confrontation and bitchiness doesn't suit me either. In fact, I often hear people ask me if I'm always so relaxed. Of course, I'm no Buddha, but you can't fake a certain basic relaxedness. 

There is no fixed "plan" in my head how to get closer to my beloved for a while. That wouldn't work at all - every date, every person is different. If necessary, I take the initiative. But I am just as happy (and good) to let myself be led. That's where my instinct as an escort comes into play - and it has never let me down yet. 

Emotional needs of men: forgotten by society?

There is this rumor going around the world that some men only go out with an escort lady to talk to her in the hotel room afterwards. Sometimes this story is told as if it were a punch line: A man who doesn't want sex? Where are we going with this? 

I think it's a terrible pity that this anecdote is treated this way. Of course, the eroticism is an integral part of the escort date and I would not want to miss it. And yet our time together is so much more: it's the cuddling after sex, the inside jokes that come up during our time together, the falling asleep and waking up together. 

One of my favorite exercises when dating is the question of music. I can't live without music, nice background music is an absolute must in the hotel room. When I ask for a music request, I am usually allowed to choose. Of course, I shamelessly take advantage of that and play music that doesn't obviously fit, but always makes a good (positive, erotic) mood. And with a little luck, after a few songs I notice how my guest gets jittery and addresses me: "So, now I'd like to show you my music!" Yes, jackpot! 

I think it's really nice to communicate and get closer through music. Sometimes crazy things come out of it, but at the same time I get to know a small part of his world. Maybe an example: I was in the bathroom doing my beauty routine, and the gentleman was already under the covers ready for bed. When I eventually came out, he put the jukebox on his nightstand and played his music (I think it was hits from the 80s) while he was already in the land of dreams. That's when I noticed that he could really let himself go. However, I then turned off the music because I need it quiet to fall asleep.

A relationship without relationship: intimate thoughts of an escort lady

In everyday life we have to play a role almost always and everywhere. My standard for myself is that you don't feel that pressure on your shoulders during our time together. I'm not a perfect being who always does everything right (see the rampant beauty routine). I hope that by doing this, I'm signaling that it's perfectly okay and sufficient for you to just be yourself. Little bonus: I find it extremely attractive when someone shows their not-so-perfect side and shares their nerdy or offbeat interests. 

The relationship between gentleman and escort is not a conventional relationship, but it is a relationship. Especially if you know each other longer and meet more than once. There must be a certain trust to fall asleep together or laugh together about stupid things.

Both sides have to contribute something for it to work well. And in the process, both reveal a piece of themselves. Unfiltered. Unvarnished. Unprotected and vulnerable. It is a fulfilling feeling when a man trusts me enough to get emotionally involved in the encounter. And it is the basis for a beautiful experience that we will remember with pleasure. 

When do we want to create memories together?

Kisses,

Maya