Perfection is a standard that I (and my gentlemen) do not pursue down to the finest detail. It's much nicer to laugh off the little weaknesses and stumbling blocks along the way together, isn't it? But that doesn't mean we don't make an effort. Maybe you're wondering how you can win my heart. And who would I be if I didn't answer that question for you!

I have written down two pieces of advice for each phase of our encounter. What little things make me smile? Which behaviors - innocent and sweet at first - are more likely to force a smile?

First of all, a brief clarification: My thoughts on positive and negative behavior are not the last word in wisdom. They are my personal preferences and the little annoyances I encounter in my everyday life as an independent escort. If you passionately disagree with me, let me know - then we can debate it over a cup of tea.

Before the date: How to set the course for a wonderful time

The escort experience doesn't just begin when the door to our hotel room opens and you can look me in the eye for the first time. For me, the time between the inquiry, the booking and the last text message before the date is part of the big picture. I'm fully switched on and put just as much effort into my emails and phone calls as I do into the date itself. And I'm happy if you appreciate the foreplay just as much and show yourself from your best side.

DO: Let the anticipation tingle

Do you also have that instinctive heartbeat when your cell phone vibrates? It's a great feeling to receive messages from someone you value. Nevertheless, I find it pleasant if we don't chat 24/7 before the date. For one thing, I always have a lot to do at home and at university and can't always reply promptly. On the other hand, it spoils the anticipation a little, don't you think?

It's a bit like your or my favorite series: Imagine googling what happens before the season finale! The anticipation and the uncertainty are what make it so tingly. Enjoy the butterflies and allow yourself a touch of patience! It's worth it.

Of course, that doesn't mean you can't ask any questions before the date! My mailbox is always open if you have organizational questions or want to share your excitement. I will answer you as quickly as I can and my tight schedule allows.

DON'T: Knock on the door late

I'm sure we agree that it's rude to turn up late for an appointment without letting me know in advance. But lateness is also a problem for me the other way round. To explain: I prefer incalls where I check into the hotel room first and meet you on site. I usually arrive at the location around one to two hours before the start of our date and prepare the room (and myself). I usually spend the last few minutes in the bathroom in front of the mirror or dancing around the room again to calm my nerves. It's my little secret ritual before the date starts.

If there's a knock at the door too early, it's not the end of the world - but it throws me off my game. This may sound petty, but if you're more than 10 minutes early, you'll get to see a grumpy Maya. To avoid this, I'd appreciate it if you could wait in the car or downstairs in the lobby.

Meanwhile: The perfect date follows no laws

The best dates are the ones where everything flows naturally and doesn't feel tense. It's important to me that we both feel comfortable - it's almost secondary what we do together. I've had great experiences with a fully booked and packed schedule during a date. On the other hand, I also enjoy the dates where we float through time together and lie around in bed for hours. You can't conjure up this state, but you can make it more likely with a few little tricks.

DO: Enjoy dessert before dinner

I'm a bit of a rebel at heart. And so I sometimes enjoy savoring the physical pleasures even before our dinner. There seems to be a clear timetable in the escort world: First dinner, then date. Who actually set this rule in stone? I find it much nicer to get rid of the excess energy first and satisfy my hunger in the hotel bed first.

Tastes are different. If we prefer dinner, we can get to know each other better and develop an appetite for an erotic dessert in the first place. On the other hand, we might have to forgo the actual dessert so as not to end up overstuffed in the hotel bed. A difficult decision where there is no right or wrong. It's best to decide on the spur of the moment!

DON'T: Hand in your fingertips at reception

Sure, life as an escort lady and student sounds exciting and thrilling. And I have no problem answering certain questions. I deliberately leave some points open - for example, my course of study or my future plans. I'm sure you can understand that I'm protecting my privacy here. Asking questions is completely normal and I don't hold it against anyone if the subject comes up in conversation.

On the other hand, there are questions that are simply rude and hurtful. And they don't have to be mean! I understand that the job as an escort is shrouded in a mystical fog that naturally arouses curiosity. But the question of how many men I've already had sex with or whether I've just come from another date (both have happened!) should be avoided. That's a touch too intimate.

By the way: You can read my thoughts on the complex relationship between intimacy and escort here.

After the date: We share memories made of gold...

"Farewell is the birth of memory." This charming quote by Salvador Dalí sometimes comes to mind when I say goodbye with a kiss at the room door. I usually stay longer in the hotel than my guest. This gives me the opportunity to reflect on the meeting and let it come to an end.

Of course, the impressions that arise on the home stretch have a greater impact at first than the memories of the night before. That's why these tips are very important to me to put the icing on the cake of a wonderful date.

DO: Celebrate the last kiss with fresh breath

This confession probably won't surprise you if you've been following my blog for any length of time: I love overnight bookings! There's nothing better than waking up in the morning snuggled up together and greeting the day together. I enjoy those last few hours before we go our separate ways. If it weren't for one little thing: the morning bad breath.

I know this is completely natural and cannot be avoided even with the very best oral hygiene. Nevertheless, I allow myself the little diva moment of asking you to brush your teeth before morning sex. Of course, you don't have to stand in front of the mirror alone, I'll come into the bathroom with you. That way, we can both wake up properly while brushing our teeth before we devote ourselves to our bodies again. And then maybe breakfast in bed?

DON'T: Give me as a reference without being asked

Some independent escorts only accept new requests if the potential clients are recommended by a colleague. On the one hand, this is a safety measure to avoid fake bookings. On the other hand, it helps to discreetly avoid unpleasant situations and to be able to turn down gentlemen if they have a bad reputation.

I have no problem if someone gives me as a reference. But it's important for me to be asked first. Otherwise it's unpleasant to suddenly be referred to as a gentleman by a complete stranger. At the same time, it sends an unpleasant signal: if the gentleman doesn't ask me, how much respect can the other escort lady expect from him? If you don't ask, you also run the risk of not receiving a positive reference from me. Although this is rare, it can happen - especially with guests I have only met once.

Rules are there to be broken - right?

It feels a little awkward to give you, the reader, tips on how to behave. After all, I am convinced that you go through life as a gentleman and know the basic rules of etiquette. At the same time, an (escort) date is an exceptional situation: your emotions are on a rollercoaster, your nerves are fluttering and behavior that is actually taken for granted takes a back seat for a moment. With all the nervousness, this is completely understandable. Don't worry: I have the professionalism in this situation to charmingly look past it. After all, I'm not perfect either!

Would you like to convince me of your manners on a real date? You can reach me via my contact form or by e-mail. I look forward to hearing from you!

Kisses,

Maya

The perfect gentleman: do's and don'ts for a successful date