Escort or Sugarbaby: How to choose your perfect companion
How I would love to stroll through the most beautiful castles in Europe like a French mistress on the arm of a gentleman, in the style of a Madame de Pompadour or Madame du Barry. I imagine a palace like Versailles would be dreamy, as would the romantic castles on the Loire.
Mistress, hetaera, courtesan, society lady: Just as there were thousands of names for the sensual accompaniment, today the world of modern muses and escort ladies. I became really aware of this during an escort double date with a friend who conquers the heart of her sugardaddy as a Sugarbaby.
I share the story of course with the full consent of all parties. As an escort and long-term lover, discretion is very important to me.
The modern mistress: My first (skin) contact with a Sugarbaby
I was already a few months active as an escort in Düsseldorf, when my old friend V. wrote to me. With a twinkle in her eye she asked me if I would like to have a "sugary sweet" escort duo date with her partner T.. Of course I had!
At first glance, V. and T. are indistinguishable from a "normal" couple. If I didn't know any better, I would simply take T. for a generous partner who likes to give his sweetheart presents often - which is also the reality. Our meeting place was in the lingerie department of a luxury department store. While T. - a very nice smiling man with a watchful eye - watched us, V. and I rummaged through the mountains of silk, lace and bows.
"Maya, dear, do you actually know how T and I met?"
I shook my head as I ran a bodysuit of shiny silk through my hands. Oh, it would look great on my tanned skin! V didn't seem to give the lingerie a glance. Her eyes wandered to my over-the-knee boots and to my skirt, which was short enough to let a small strip of skin show through.
"You know, I wanted to treat myself to something nice, but my taste in shoes doesn't quite fit my budget. So I naively typed "Sugarbabe seeks Sugardaddy" into Google and ... Voilá!"
"Really?", I asked curiously. V. always had extravagant taste.
"Well... T. wrote me up and offered to make my life a little easier as his sugar baby. And I gladly and enthusiastically accepted. The rest is history..."
I lifted my head and looked into her cheeky grinning sapphire blue eyes.
"So you're a sugar baby?", I hooked up curiously.
I noticed, of course, how she could hardly take her eyes off me. V. nodded and took a step closer to feel the fabric in my hands. Casually, I let a perfectly manicured finger slide over her forearm.
"Yeah. We're not that different, don't you think?" she finally smiled at me as she regained her composure.
A good question. Sugarbaby and escort lady: What is the difference?
V. didn't even wait for an answer, "Maya, honey, you should definitely try this on..."
She plucked the silky puff of nothing from my hand and led me to the changing rooms. "Don't worry," she smiled, "I'm sure T will pay for it with the greatest pleasure."
She took my hand and spun me around as soon as we arrived behind the heavy velvet curtain of the changing room. My back touched the cool wood of the cramped cubicle as she stood in front of me, grinning hungrily at me.
"He has also already arranged a wonderful suite for us in a luxury hotel for our escort duo date."
Her gentle, soft hands pressed me against the wall of the locker room.
"Wow. It must be great to have a man like that by your side...", I whispered as I felt V's knee push between my legs. I felt the fabric of her pantyhose against my bare thighs. A curious finger made its way under my skirt, stroking searchingly over my lacy panties.
"You think so?"
Her face was only a breath away. She glanced playfully over her shoulder to the back, where T. had an eagle-eyed view of both of us through the not-quite-drawn curtains. With a sly smile, she turned back to me. Her lips found mine, and she tasted like bubble gum and wild adventures.
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A few hours - and many caresses - later, I was lying in the gigantic bathtub, enjoying my freedom. V. and T. had left after making love, I had the suite all to myself. There was one question I couldn't get out of my head:
Sugarbaby or Escort? Does that even matter when you have fun with each other in bed?
Escort or Sugarbaby: The agony of choice for gentlemen
In the world of professional sensual pleasures, the terms mix quickly. The boundaries between an escort lady and a Sugarbaby can not be defined so easily. I'll give it a try anyway.
Sugardating is all about the idea of a relationship. However, it can be quite challenging and time-consuming to find and maintain a harmonious, long-term relationship with a Sugarbaby. There are specialized dating sites where Sugarbaby and Sugardaddy can meet. But still, the process is similar to a traditional relationship - with all the potential heartache that may come with it.
An escort encounter, on the other hand, is more planned and therefore more coordinated and relaxed. This does not mean that there is a fixed sequence - each date is individual and special. But after the goodbye kiss there are no obligations. Of course, occasionally great relationships between escort and gentleman arise, for example with a long-term lover. You meet more often, become even more intimate and familiar with each other, also understand each other on a personal level. But it is not a love relationship with obligations, ownership claims, ambiguities and unspoken claims.
Both can be quite magical. But an escort date and a Sugarbaby arrangement are just different.
This is how you choose your perfect companion:
3 reasons that speak for a Sugardating relationship
In terms of feeling, sugardating is similar to a conventional relationship. The financial compensation is only somewhat more clearly emphasized than in a "classic" relationship. Nevertheless, you enjoy the intimacy and togetherness with a confidante.
Even if you pay your Sugarbaby a monthly fee and give her gifts, in many cases the offer can be cheaper in the long run than repeated or longer escort dates. However, there are many variables that go into the price of a Sugarbaby. Your own spendability determines the budget - but in return, there's no exclusivity for you either.
The partner exchanges for Sugardating arrangements offer a variety of options to find the right Sugarbaby. After all, the relationship should often be long-term - so it is worth investing more time in advance. However, this is quite time-consuming and the man must usually reveal more about himself, including income and his private situation.
3 reasons that speak for a sensual escort date
You appreciate crystal clear communication and want a well-rehearsed, if never routine experience? Your wish: A long-term lover at your side, with whom you can talk openly about sex and your preferences, who is open-minded, curious and experienced. Escort ladies often offer interested gentlemen an extensive portfolio on their escort sites, which answers all questions about the booking and organization.
Whether business dinner, travel companion or a nice evening in the hotel: The escort lady of your choice feels comfortable on every parquet. She shines like a diamond at your side, leads charming conversation and yet has only eyes for you. As a gentleman you are the center of attention. The time together is clearly marked out and then there is only the two of you. Discretion, professional appearance and a sincere interest in you characterize the encounter.
An escort lady has a fixed, non-negotiable fee, which you can calculate in advance exactly into your budget. You expect no nasty surprises or extra costs. Unless you want to indulge in luxury at the hotel or restaurant like God in France or surprise your beautiful escort companion with a gift from her wish list.
And now? Am I an independent escort in Düsseldorf or a Sugarbaby?
Ultimately, it does not matter whether I cause palpitations as a Sugarbaby or as a private escort in Düsseldorf. For me, who sees myself in the tradition of mistresses, hetaeras and courtesans, the term independent escort is tailor-made. And with an option for a long term arrangement as your long term mistress, we can enjoy a very similar experience to having a sugar baby. But who knows - maybe I will find, like my friend V., a sugardaddy who will make me his French mistress.
